During which, she admitted to the following, “I’m not addicted to social media or news feeds”, but then a little later on in our conversation she also conceded to “I can be said to be addicted to blogging”.
It made me think about my own personality traits – l can be prone to addiction. I never used to have a moderation button – although that has changed in recent months – finally l am learning how to moderate. I know people in the past have said and more so since my diagnosis of Asperger’s in 2008, “Ah this explains your addictive personality!”
Maybe, that is so, although l do know now that without an ability to moderate behaviours, tastes, passions and loves and times, that before l could come across as addictive and to the extreme obsessed and more so when fixated upon a specialised interest or enthusiasm but is that the same as addiction?
Or is it merely a belief?
I am still working on and with the Thrive course. However, we are currently on a break. We were exploring various “Unhelpful Thinking Styles”, which was an exciting and thought-provoking chapter. Which encouraged us to delve deep into negative thinking, brooding, paranoia, the black and white, impulsive thoughts, perfectionism, the hypervigilant personality, the learned helplessness style and how much of a catastrophiser are you?
All extremely fascinating, l assure you! It makes you stop, think, think twice and makes you examine how you feel! We decided we needed to take a break for a while before our brains exploded! Especially given that the next chapter was entitled “The language we use”, which is a comprehensive chapter and one we need to be extra fresh for.
Thrive is NOT a programme you should tackle when tired!
I told Sadje to not worry about her ‘addiction to blogging’ as there are far worse things you could be addicted to. Still, it made me think about some of the things l believed l was addicted to over the years** for many years and also made me further explore my own set of behaviours regarding a lack of moderation and a fondness to exploit passions!
There are two sides to the same term ‘addiction’, making it hard to establish and define. Some wouldn’t define all addictions as pure or harmful addictions, therefore challenging whether the term ‘l am addicted to blogging’ is actually about ‘harmful addiction or merely filling surplus time with entertainment’.
Social media addiction is considered harmful because of the excessive amount of time users spend on the platform. BUT, some further suggest that social media, whilst harmful, isn’t an addiction, to begin with.
For many, spending hours on their mobile phones poring over their feeds on social media accounts is no longer considered unusual behaviour. The average ‘user’ spends roughly two hours daily on their various social platforms. I wondered about this, do l?
No, but l am not the average user of typical social media. I have a Facebook account, but maybe only visit twice a day for roughly 2 -3 minutes per visit to check for messages. I don’t have Twitter or IG or any other media aside from WordPress. Because WP is also a social community media site – people utilise the features to read and comment on content from the social side to this community.
How long do l spend here daily? Well, l first began blogging in 2017; back then, l was using it sparingly, so not often; then, l was also on Twitter, which l deleted in January 2018. But from January 2018 – June 2019, l can honestly say l was addicted to my blog and the social community through the written content to prompt creation and response. It would not have been unusual back then to spend upwards of 12 hours daily here! But l had less to do in ‘real life’ or that is the excuse l used.
From July 2019 – January 2020, l had started to slow down my actual publishings, and l wanted to ease back from the social side this year as l was concerned with the time l was spending on here.
These days l create a single post for the next day publishing only. That takes anywhere between 30 minutes to three hours to develop, pending the content, l also spend perhaps a total of an hour a day every day reading blogs in the evening, and l attend to comments daily once in the morning and also once in the evening, and that occupies me for around 30 minutes total, but l will be reading blogs also in the evening, so can combine the two tasks.
So my daily addictive fix to blogging takes a minimum of two hours to a potential four and a half hours a day and more so if there is a more extended creation time present. I aim to create two ‘long content pieces’ a week. I needed to reduce the amount of time l spent on my blog so that l could devote more time to my business which will also have a blog. I wanted to ensure that l managed my spare time efficiently and productively and no longer ‘wasted surplus times’.
I have achieved that, and l am now busier than ever.
Once l have written the next day’s post and attended to the morning comments, l sign out of my account and have nothing more to do with it until later afternoon or early evening, at that time, l am now working or studying or creating elsewhere.
How addicted to blogging am l today? Not addicted at all, l still blog, l still write, l am enjoying writing again, l am still social, just not as much as l once was, but l would describe my behaviour today as being more community social.
We come back to the line of ‘there are worse things to be addicted to than blogging’, and still l ask is addiction the right word to describe it OR is there a difference between social media to writing media, as in the likes of Facebook to WordPress? It’s all social media to me as is. Maybe you think different?
However that aside, the only question today is …
How addicted to blogging are you?
Part 1 of 2 – **Question 2 later this week.