The Bad Habits of Society!
What is it with people these days?
Over the last few weeks, l have attempted to sell ‘bit’n’pieces’ from the house here. The sales have had to come around due to Suzanne moving in full time here, and whilst the house was big enough for two people anyway because it was just me here to start with, l had ‘stuff’ in all of the rooms.
Suze moved in officially on October 1st. Her furniture arrived just before that – not all of it – but maybe 45% of her entire household moved here. She now occupies the spare bedroom, and also, what was the empty third bedroom is now her office environment. Her remaining furniture is held in a secure lockup over in Dover.
This move-in meant that whilst there WAS still space for two people and the majority of their belongings, some things had to change and change around and move on. Some of the furniture l had in Willow when l first moved in July 2020 has now had to be sold on, or rather, l should say, l am attempting to sell certain pieces on.
It is proving harder this year than in previous years to move stuff onwards via private selling methods.
Two things l have noticed are strange behaviours arising from or since the pandemic. This is NOT saying these bad habits were missing before, because they weren’t. They were simply not as profound and noticeable.
The irks l have are 1] that people seemingly have become ruder in the last 15 months to others than they previously were. People have become more selfish and self-centred and absorbed in themselves to the detriment of good manners and courtesy. 2] That is not new, but most assuredly more distinct is that people buying used goods now expect to either get it for nothing or pay nothing for it.
I am selling a few pieces. All are in excellent condition, clean and priced well. Even with the added inclusion of £xxx ONSO [Or nearest sensible offer], the offers that people put in are meagre. I am all for a bit of bantering and renegotiation, but people don’t have that savvy. They become rude if you say no to their price.
I have a five-piece breakfast bar set here, purchased last July 2020 for £175 for a shelved breakfast bar table and four chairs. I first advertised it for £155 two weeks ago. Received an offer for £105. I declined that offer and tried a compromising suggestion, and they were adamant that l was a rip off artist and l was asking too much. They asked for my lowest price and l suggested £125 with them collecting from me.
That’s a drop of £50 from me, and still, they weren’t happy and demanded that l prove l paid £175 for the set! I declined their request and suggested that if they were not satisfied with my price, then maybe look at Amazon and see if they could find a set for lower or even check out eBay.
There were a few messages from more people asking, “If this was still available?” Which l answered yes, then you hear nothing more. I am using an online social media marketplace to sell on, which l have always had a great deal of success with in the past.
I had to renew the advert last Friday, so l dropped the price to £135 with an added note of ONO [Or Nearest Offer], and l got a hit straight away an offer came in of £80!? I declined, and they asked me the lowest l was willing to go to? I said £125 for them to hit back with a statement of “It’s cheaper on Amazon!! They are selling it for £93, match it!!”
I said them, but that is only for a shelved bar table and 2 chairs? I closed the conversation with my advice to buy the Amazon set and then source two additional chairs. Still, you’ll find that those two chairs will probably price you up again towards my £125 anyway.
I’ll not bore you with all the details. Still, time and time again, l am getting this nonsense back from what l class as rude people and arrogant people l am a private seller l don’t have to ‘match anything’ like l am a commercial seller! Sheesh!
I have three bean bags for sale; they cost me £55 each last June 2020 when l bought them, excellent condition. The company l bought them from has had a deal on for the past two months, and the £55 bean bags are currently priced at £40.00. So l advertised mine at £35 each or £100 for the three and the last offer was £15 each!
There are other items to list; who knows how they will fair. But l don’t understand the mentality of people today – don’t get me wrong, if someone offered me an excellent sensible offer, l will accept, but NOT stupid offers. I don’t need the money, l am not desperate for the sale – although the space being cleared would help, but whilst l am willing to drop some of the price l am not willing to simply give items away.
I was raised to be polite to people, so l am always polite to people even when they are not polite to me. Two wrongs don’t make it right! I don’t try and manipulate and coerce people by using aggressive tactics, as l have witnessed from potential buyers in the last few weeks.
I don’t have a sense of entitlement as some do, and they make no attempt to hide it; l don’t look or talk down at/to people like a lot of people are now starting to do more and more. It seems that we have a lot of people with a very strained and strange mentality these days, and l am not sure why?
Another wrong habit l am seeing is a complete lack of respect for people and a lack of consideration.
The pandemic wasn’t to blame, but it seemed to kick start a new trend of disregard for people and things. People have gotten used to demanding and expecting instant results in their favour and becoming shocked if they find opposition to their quirky beliefs in what they believe they should have.
I also think that much of society has become lazy and cannot haggle or even understand the concept of bargaining. So many others are so desperate to just let go of stuff that they’ll not resist the tactics that buyers use. On the other side of the coin – many now used to living in a disposable world believe that everyone is some kind of online seller or trader and therefore should be shouted down on prices… l am all for the credo of ‘you don’t know till you try’, but this behaviour isn’t about trying your luck, this is more about no one has the right to ask for a decent price in the world of selling on today.
Finally, l am sadly starting to think that ‘patience is no longer something that many have’ and whilst it is a virtue, it is becoming a fading one.