Questions below, but first ….
I have been busy a lot this week at the reserve, most mornings l have been helping thin out the duckweed problem we have in the pond. Most days it is just a small group of us, but on the Wednesday when it is the ‘official’ volunteer day then we are not just a small unit of four but we become a gang of around 11 and with the increased numbers you find that there is usually a much more diverse tangent of conversation to be had. When we are a mere four block we discuss mostly duckweed, duckweed, more duckweed and if not the damn green duckweed, then we are discussing sticklebacks and other silver fish species – oh YES, never a dull moment!
However, there were two conversation topics being discussed on Wednesday, both of which l shall raise today in this question under the title of ‘etiquette’ although both are connected directly and indirectly to political correctness …. ish! Gotta love the power of ISH!.
The first topic concerned the rise and fall of good manners in our society today and was/is it a dying form of politeness? Whilst the second discussion was concerning political correctness and whether the two were closely connected BUT also was it better to be seen as politically correct OR diversity correct? So two discussions and then the third to enter the arena of debate was and perhaps the most interesting – can one still be properly polite and politically correct at the same time?
I found this combination of topics and questions intriguing ….. l mean – is not well balanced political correctness merely an updated version of good manners anyway? I say ‘Balanced’ because l believe that being polite and displaying and expressing good manners is etiquette anyway as is being aware of what is socially correct and not.
Whilst I was brought up to be polite and show good manners at all times – l was not brought up to be specifically politically correct in my yesterdays and yet l still think the two are very closely connected today anyway – provided it is viewed in a balanced way. I was brought up to NOT be rude to people whoever they were – but only be polite.
I am sometimes pulled up on using outdated terms and either referred to as being antiquated, old fashioned or on the odd occasion, not politically correct. I recall a few years ago, genuinely holding the door open for a young woman, who accused me of being sexist! “Are you implying l am incapable of opening a door because l am a woman?” She shouted at me in a busy shopping centre! I remember turning beetroot red and thinking ‘Blimey, who shit on your cornflakes this morning then? Talk about bad manners!”
The people at the reserve are a mixture of ages BUT most are in their mid 60’s to later 70’s, whilst l am in my late 50’s, so there is quite a mixture of generations age wise. That is not a specific statement just a fact. I am the second youngest, whilst l am older than the actual youngest by nearly 30 years – so there is a wide scope of thoughts on the subject.
In the main, many thought that people were ruder these days, that etiquette and good manners was dying and that political correctness was a hashed and mashed up modern version of what was left as far as being polite went, but none were too sure whether being PC or simply diversity correct was a more preferred way of life?
l don’t think good manners has completely disappeared, but l see it fading fast into the horizon in the next few years especially because more and more people these days are simply ruder and lack patience and tolerance, and l like the term diversity correct more than being politically correct.
How about you, what do you think?
Do you think good manners is dying from society?
Do you think that political correctness is the ‘modern’ form of etiquette for society today?
Which do you think is better – political correctness or diversity correctness?
Let me know below. Thanks.