|Strollings, Pootlings and Musings|
|Season 8 – Summer 2021|
|Series 8 – New Starts Always Start At The Start!|
|Tuesday 20th July 2021|
|“I may be not the one, but l am here.”|
|Delf Pond [centre of the Reserve]|
I think at times it is inescapable that you find yourself worrying about a friend to the point that it causes you concerns and stresses of your own. I am currently in that position with Suzanne … not dangerous stress for me, but l am worried for her health. I think she is struggling with deep depression …. she did visit the doctor several weeks ago after waiting ages to see a doctor in the first place with regards light depression.
It’s not easy currently to get to see a doctor in our area … and where Suzanne is in Deal, the long wait times are even longer – it’s not unusual to book an appointment today as an example and not actually have your appointment till perhaps the end of August and sometimes later than that if you are unlucky.
How does that help anyone? More so how would that help someone struggling with depression?
|I call this the Thinking Bench’ – it is off the beaten track on one of the many pathways in the reserve, but it is very peaceful just sitting here and thinking. I love this bench more over all the other because it has been crafted from one the logs from the trees here and is just wonderfully natural. So taken with it am l, that it will feature in one the designs for the series in The Authentic Recycler. |
The Reserve will feature in many of the designs for the new blog.
She is on holiday this week and thankfully has a busy week – being busy is good with depression, it keeps your mind active and doesn’t allow it time to dwell in places it doesn’t need to linger …. those dark places that welcome sadness!
What’s making things even more trying is her study on the Thrive Programme. The actual ‘programme’ is designed to allow a person to study through various elements of empowerment and enrichment that will enable them to take more control of their life and mental health comfortably on their terms. It’s great for combating anxiety and stress and is a superb way forwards to receive more freedom from your life and to not become hindered by overwhelming beliefs that you may have that prevent you from being you. Which for the right person sounds ideal … but no two people are the same nor alike. So whilst one person may take the study course and feel fabulous after a couple of weeks, another may take the same study and not feel the benefits straight away.
|I walk in the reserve twice a day most days now, it is just so utterly peaceful – l don’t think l’ll ever get tired of walking in here.|
I personally think it is more reflective upon where the individual is in their life at the time they took the course and that will determine how long it takes them to allow the course to work or not.
The more l have looked into the programme, the more fascinating and frustrating it looks to be – it is designed to make you think for sure, but also to challenge what you believe and may have believed for some time.
Suzanne was diagnosed with Seasonal Affective disorder [S.A.D] in her thirties, so more or less thirty years ago now and Thrive challenges people with that diagnosis to question whether the SAD diagnosis is a diagnosis or is merely a belief? Thrive does the same to the likes of many mental health problems like depression …. and in turn Suzanne is finding the content of the programme very confusing and obviously challenging too.
|Prickly pink thistle – [Cirsium vulgare].|
She visited here yesterday, the first time in well over a week because of the 149th Golf Open here last week in Sandwich and we had a lovely walk in the reserve where l also walked this morning [photos are a combo from both those walks] and we talked about her progress on the course which is when she said she was becoming very depressed with how things were and l tried to encourage her to talk about it more because she had also been unusually quiet this last week and l learned that she didn’t want to bother me with her ‘woe’.
This saddened me somewhat, because l have always told her that no matter what she is going through, she is always welcome to talk to me about anything. The reason we agreed for her to take a coach one on one course as opposed to the manual course only was so that she could talk to her coach about any issues she was having problems with. But you can only talk to your coach once a week and that can make things awkward. But then … Thrive is a study course, it isn’t a therapy appointment.
|Hover flies feeding on the clusters of flowers on the hogweed.|
The other thing she is having serious problems with and l think this is probably the main culprit to everything and is in turn affecting her ability to concentrate on the course material and the knock on effect from that is also detrimental to being able to challenge her beliefs logically is she experiencing serious problems with loneliness. You have seen me before write about this and Suzanne – l did worry about this very subject with her. She wanted to live by herself and l am a healthy 100% advocate for those who wish to do that … everyone should be able to live on their own and not have problems with it.
|Hogweed at dusk.|
But that’s easy for me to say … l have never experienced loneliness, sure l know ‘being alone’, but that is very different – l don’t need people in my life to be happy because l like my own company and can ‘thrive’ by myself, but not everyone can … and l do try and understand this from another person’s perspective – but it can be hard for me … because l believe ‘loneliness’ is only a belief and can be easily knocked asunder by being positive.
However, l am not the one taking the Thrive course and challenging beliefs, l am not the one experiencing loneliness, l am not the one moving on from stage 4 throat cancer recovery, l am not the one – so l can only but listen as Suzanne’s friend and offer her advice and a hug and a laugh and a joke as l can, but that doesn’t mean l don’t worry for her.
|The reserve now has roughly 80 natural ducks and also just under a dozen of the larger hybrid runner xdomestic ducks [the ones in the middle image]. Many of the native ducks have had clutches this year with better survival rates than previous years in the reserve. This is due to the rennovation works being done.|
Thanks for reading …. catch you next time.