During my morning walk yesterday, l overheard a small snippet of chat between two chaps – one was in his 60’s whilst the other was much younger, maybe in his 40’s and it went as such.
Chap 1 “Goodness, you are far far from home then really, being here in Kent?”
Chap 2 “Not really, but admittedly it’s been a while since l was truly home, but that’s life isn’t it? We are always moving, around aren’t we?”
Chap 1 “Well, not everyone is like that. I am a Kent lad, born and raised here in Sandwich, never strayed in all my 60 plus years. Kent is my home and l am not far from my true home either where l grew up as a boy”
This small conversation made me think about a lot of things, but in the main; travelling, being home based and locations but also, the line of “Far, Far From Home” made me think about what that truly meant? I never heard where Chap 2 originated from and l was hardly likely to ask, but then l thought well alrighty then Rory, where is home for you then?
Home for me as l joke is ‘wherever l hang my hat’ and currently my hat is on the coat stand here in Sandwich in Willow, but whilst this is my current home, l was trying to think where and what l might class as ‘Truly Home?’ Would the phrase, “Home is where your heart is at?” Hold more weight and truth?
I have lived in the United Kingdom since 1977 – l was born in 1963 and before 77, l lived in Australia and Malaysia. Although l left the UK in 1965 – so for 12 years l lived abroad, but for 43 years l have lived here. So, in essence, many could quite rightly state ‘Well Rory, your true home is the UK’. Yet, that doesn’t feel right either – l have never felt truly at ease here in England, l have never felt like it was my home … l did honestly love living in Australia and l considered that my real homeland. My Sister was born in Sydney, Australia … but considers England to be her true home.
If l were to then say ok, well if we exclude countries – where is or was my homestead then? I am still at a loss. After returning to England from Australia, then moving to North Wales for a while, then moving as a family down to Woking, in the County of Surrey where l lived from 1977 – 1984. From 1985 – 1993 l then moved around Surrey with work to places like Guildford and Kingston and Richmond and then moved to London for a while, then to Kent for a while, back to London again for a while. Then in the early 90’s l was constantly on the move and had no ‘home base’ at all – l simply rented apartments or lived in hotels … friends and family at the time likened me to a Nomad living a Nomadic existence!
From 1994 – 2015, in those years l had been, single, married and divorced and was also then living in and around Lincolnshire and Cambridgeshire in various locations. My final location in Lincolnshire was near to Spalding and l left there in 2015 when Suze and l started living together and took a leap of faith and moved to the Isle of Wight.
As a couple from 2015 – 2020 we lived in the Isle of Wight as just said and Kent and in those five years together we lived in a total of 5 locations ……. none of which were ever classed as a home for either of us.
So it’s very hard for me to even begin to wonder where my heart might be at with regards ‘truly home’ and l would agree with the sentiment of ” but that’s life isn’t it? We are always moving, around aren’t we?”
But that’s me … perhaps you have a different take on, so the questions are …
1] Which term do you personally prefer for you ‘Home is where l hang my hat or home is where my heart is?”
2] Do you consider where you are living now your true home or ar you still far, far from home?
3] Do you think the days when families used to live close to each other and held closer tight knit communities are still present or long gone?
Let me know below in the comment section.