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….. BFF aka Best Friends Forever??

How curious are you as a person?

Don’t confuse ‘curiousness’ as being nosey as there is a huge difference between the two …. See Episode 1  for the introduction to this series.

Season 2 – Episode 01

“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art…. It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.”

― C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves

“How many slams in an old screen door? Depends how loud you shut it. How many slices in a bread? Depends how thin you cut it. How much good inside a day? Depends how good you live ’em. How much love inside a friend? Depends how much you give ’em.”

― Shel Silverstein

“True friends are like diamonds – bright, beautiful, valuable, and always in style.”

― Nicole Richie

How many friends do you still have from when you were young …. as in not just hoarded on your Facebook Wall and you never comment let alone properly converse, or nestled in Twitter somewhere or whatever other social platform you have hidden them in …. l mean, true friendship that has lasted the test of time … overcome the shit and the hassles of life, beaten the obstacles back and walked through blood, sweat, fire and teeth for each other kind of friendship?

The longest friendship l have in real life currently – as in flesh and blood is actually Suze, previous to that it was Suze and Scrappy, and when there was no Suze, it was Scrappy and Dora …. but the friendship l have with Suze is from January 2013 – now, making it one of the longest and the only one human wise that is the longest.

I recently dropped a load of ‘friends’ off Facebook took my numbers from 45 to 23 and l am contemplating dropping a lot more off .. but l don’t use Facebook, l don’t have Twitter or Instagram or Pinterest or whatever else … l have here and l have a virtual readership of which a small percentage are also friends.

I don’t carry friendship, some of those l recently deleted out of my life via Facebook were from school and college days – but we never spoke apart from the initial contact of finding each other – then we simply didn’t converse because we had absolutely nothing in common … so NO Best Friends Forever in that pile.

I had always struggled with retaining friends and friendships – when they were in my six – great but when they weren’t – they become irrelevant – but l also know that is the very behaviour of autism, or l should say Asperger’s – we tend to NOT do long term friendships … of course that is NOT all of those on the spectrum, but of the few or many l have known and met during my years – that behaviour certainly comes across as a strong contender for a lack of lengthy friendships.

But l am always curious about how others manage to maintain long lasting friendships and how they actually manage to keep in touch if one has moved away and l suppose more importantly – why they stay in touch if they don’t live close to each other? But that might just be me … l have been reliably informed many a time it usually is just my opinion … so l guess that might be true.

So … how many genuinely good friends do you still have that you actively engage with through whatever medium socially on a regular basis and your friendship is still as strong as it was when you were both/all younger …. therefore your friendship still holds the title BFF?

Let me know below.

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18 thoughts on “The Curious Case Of …

  1. None. Though my roommate and I are becoming good friends this past year, which is great. My oldest friend and I (from teen years) are still connected but chat only a few times per year. Mostly I talk to my daughters when I need to chat…

    1. Yes, Suze has a couple of friends from many years ago – but in this last period of time especially she has noticed [l did tell her this before], that she was the one mostly doing all the legwork to keep the friendship fresh.

      But she now has friends that are much closer in emotion and proximity to each other from her work .. which is working much better for her.

    1. Well, yes, l had to change the format back to how it used to be because for some reason the system l was trying to adopt wouldn’t format properly – l still don’t know why that is though 🙂

      So you should now see the length of the post in the RSS feed l guess? 🙂

  2. I have four good friends from my school/ college days and two from last ten- twelve years or so. This friendship is based on mutual respect and regard for each other and on shared way of thinking and feeling. Sometimes I don’t talk to my friends for days but they still remain my friends.

    1. Hey Sadje, are they still local to you ? I recall you mentioning them before. you must be in a lot of contact with them then? How much contact was there when you were living in the States?

      1. Occasional. My school friends are not local. Two are in a different city and one is in Norway, the other in England. Other two, the more recent ones are in my city and we meet and talk often.

  3. Zero. IRL I have my daughters. I have a few online people that I’m friends with offline, but those friendships are less than 5 years, but I can see them continuing on for many years to come.


  4. I have one best friend, and she has been my rock and I for her. Will be 11 years this year since we became friends. She is my world and we always pick up where we left off 🙂

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