The Curious Case Of ….
….. BFF aka Best Friends Forever??
|How curious are you as a person?|
Don’t confuse ‘curiousness’ as being nosey as there is a huge difference between the two …. See Episode 1 for the introduction to this series.
Season 2 – Episode 01
“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art…. It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.”
― C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
“How many slams in an old screen door? Depends how loud you shut it. How many slices in a bread? Depends how thin you cut it. How much good inside a day? Depends how good you live ’em. How much love inside a friend? Depends how much you give ’em.”
― Shel Silverstein
“True friends are like diamonds – bright, beautiful, valuable, and always in style.”
― Nicole Richie
How many friends do you still have from when you were young …. as in not just hoarded on your Facebook Wall and you never comment let alone properly converse, or nestled in Twitter somewhere or whatever other social platform you have hidden them in …. l mean, true friendship that has lasted the test of time … overcome the shit and the hassles of life, beaten the obstacles back and walked through blood, sweat, fire and teeth for each other kind of friendship?
The longest friendship l have in real life currently – as in flesh and blood is actually Suze, previous to that it was Suze and Scrappy, and when there was no Suze, it was Scrappy and Dora …. but the friendship l have with Suze is from January 2013 – now, making it one of the longest and the only one human wise that is the longest.
I recently dropped a load of ‘friends’ off Facebook took my numbers from 45 to 23 and l am contemplating dropping a lot more off .. but l don’t use Facebook, l don’t have Twitter or Instagram or Pinterest or whatever else … l have here and l have a virtual readership of which a small percentage are also friends.
I don’t carry friendship, some of those l recently deleted out of my life via Facebook were from school and college days – but we never spoke apart from the initial contact of finding each other – then we simply didn’t converse because we had absolutely nothing in common … so NO Best Friends Forever in that pile.
I had always struggled with retaining friends and friendships – when they were in my six – great but when they weren’t – they become irrelevant – but l also know that is the very behaviour of autism, or l should say Asperger’s – we tend to NOT do long term friendships … of course that is NOT all of those on the spectrum, but of the few or many l have known and met during my years – that behaviour certainly comes across as a strong contender for a lack of lengthy friendships.
But l am always curious about how others manage to maintain long lasting friendships and how they actually manage to keep in touch if one has moved away and l suppose more importantly – why they stay in touch if they don’t live close to each other? But that might just be me … l have been reliably informed many a time it usually is just my opinion … so l guess that might be true.
So … how many genuinely good friends do you still have that you actively engage with through whatever medium socially on a regular basis and your friendship is still as strong as it was when you were both/all younger …. therefore your friendship still holds the title BFF?
Let me know below.