Do People ‘Really’ Want Honesty?
I always wonder about this …… people say they want honesty from people, that liars are bad, that the whole truth is better than a half truth or no truth and yet in the same breath say they want relatability they want resonation they want the truth! They don’t want fake news, they want the real news and then they stop watching the real news and tune into to more fake news because it is easier to swallow or then just stop listening to news because it is too overwhelming?
I always remember a line in the 1992 film A Few Good Men with Cruise, Nicholson and Moore about people not being able to handle the truth! I find myself questioning that more these days – can people really handle the truth and more importantly as much as they say they want the truth – do they really want the truth, do they really want more honesty?
What is honesty to people – does it start with them wanting it from others or just wanting it from themselves? Do people really hate liars? Is that because they don’t think they can trust a liar?
Fandango asked two quality questions in the last 8 days that l am sure you have seen and may well have answered already and they are :
|21/10/20||Do you blog anonymously? Why or why not?|
|14/10/20||Is it even possible to live a normal life and to not ever tell a lie?|
I find these two questions quite provoking which is not to be considered strange as they are in fact part of the wonderful series Fandango offers his readership weekly Fandango’s Provocative Question.
I find it fascinating because l was talking to someone only yesterday who conceded that the British public didn’t want the truth, they just wanted to bury their heads in the sand and get on with things and not face the truth because they probably couldn’t handle the truth..
I find Fandango’s question from this week quite fascinating because on one hand people say they want honest relatable content and yet people also say they want anonymity as well as no anonymity – which then makes me think, that people may not actually want the real truth at all, but a passable truth – a truth that makes them feel safe and less vulnerable?
Online Anonymity is a subject l have always been intrigued by. Years and years ago, 2005 l used to write on forums under a pseudonym – it was Pied Piper. I wasn’t really writing under a false name for any real reason apart from l believed more people would recognise my business name than they would my real name. That was the truth .. when l started my business TSKA and at that time l was writing on a big reptile forum in the UK, l decided to drop the pseudonym side and go with TSKA Rory Matier – Brand and Real names.
I found that by not displaying my name and who l was people trusted me less – of course, they trusted the brand, but they didn’t know me – it was a classic case of irony in many ways. When at shows or exhibitions l used to introduce myself and people would instantly say ‘So who are you again, is your name then Mr Tiska?
With business it’s always best to use your real name when online anyway to build and establish trust.
There are always pros and cons with regards online non business anonymity, it is a grey area and one l think in the next 5 years tops will change and it will become more or less mandatory for anons to display themselves as real people. With the way that other social media platforms now exercise communications – l don’t think there will be much of an avenue for anonymity and at that point l think people will really rethink how they display their expressionisms.
At my own concession l am too openly honest, but that’s just me and despite what many might say about everyone ‘lying’ – l tend to take that with a pinch of salt – not everyone does lie even in today’s world – but of course, then one must ask for the truest definition of a lie in today’s world?
So if being honest ‘is the best policy‘ is anonymity being honest and do people truly care about that anymore?
So we come back to the opening question once more ...
Do People ‘Really’ Want Honesty or only think they do?
Let me know your thoughts below.