Are You Likeable?
“Share your weaknesses. Share your hard moments. Share your real side. It’ll either scare away every fake person in your life or it will inspire them to finally let go of that mirage called “perfection,” which will open the doors to the most important relationships you’ll ever be a part of.”
― Dan Pearce
You know a lot of people tell me “Rory, you are quirky, but l like you!” or “You are quite a likeable chap, did you know that?” the latter confuses me a little – did l know l was likeable? Well perhaps, maybe, l guess so, l wasn’t really counting if honest, l am what and who l am. I know l am quite an affable guy – l get along with most people.
I have been known to break awkward or tense situations open to calm people down, l am quite good at negotiations and not upsetting people – and yet having said that – some people look at me without knowing me and instantly dislike me – others dislike me because l am too honest and more still dislike me because they find me annoying.
You can’t please everyone all the time and really you shouldn’t bother to try to. But the simple fact is l accept that not everyone likes me and l can live with that because l don’t like everyone either! That’s human nature isn’t it – we can’t like everyone even if we want to!
Of the people l do like, l like them, they are likeable people – l can’t think of many people l don’t like – l can’t NOT think of people l don’t like, but l don’t tend to hang around people l don’t like and more importantly, l don’t socialise with people l don’t like – life’s too short to bugger about like that!
It is suggested ‘everyone wants to be liked!‘ I mean is that totally true? Does that not make you a people pleaser and no one wants to be one of those! Or do they? Is being a people pleaser bad, as in truly bad ? No one sets out to be deliberately conflictive [in the main, there are exceptions of course] but the majority of people – don’t want to be disliked or unliked or just not liked …
However the question for today is …
What qualities make a person likeable or what makes you like someone else?