Are you flirting with me …………
………….aka How Gritty or Pretty is your Flirty!
This morning whilst enjoying my morning brisker, l met a lady walking her dog on The Butts part of the Sandwich circular pathways [you’ll learn about them soon enough] and l shared a laugh and a joke with her about the irony of her dog sniffing a bush on The Butts! Now admittedly she was in her mid forties perhaps later forties, she was younger than me for sure.
[For the record, l did size up the situation first, l know at times l am and can be considered inappropriate – and that’s true – but l am not entirely mad! So if the situation looked wrong l wouldn’t say some things!!]
Her laughing quip back was ‘You’re pretty flirty on a gritty topic, aren’t you?’ She then bade me a lovely day, thanked me for making her smile and was on her way. I continued walking smiling and pleased that l had made another person smile – honestly l was thinking that! But, you know ….. it’s always nice to receive a compliment, no?
But her response made me think back to my younger days [mid 20’s to later 40’s] when l was described as an ‘”incorrigible flirt with the gift of friendly banter!” Equally the way she had answered was funny, a real play on words ‘ pretty and gritty’ are very similar sounding to ‘flirty’.
The exchange lasted less than a minute – but in that time, with a complete stranger wittingly or maybe even unwittingly l had flirted with someone of the opposite sex.
Now when younger, whilst l was described as an ‘”incorrigible flirt with the gift of friendly banter!” Truth be known … all l was being, was friendly – it just so happened that l always get along with women better’n men.
Only yesterday, Suze declared upon listening to me describing the last week, that l knew the names of five women in the town already and no men, what was that all about?
I did think about this ……….. “Well, Anne runs the antique upholstery business where l got the Abearable Bear’ from, Shirley runs the antique store where l bought some things from , Christine and Clare run the letting agency that l rent from and Sheralyn [Sherry] runs the quirky store in town – now sure l laugh and joke with them – but my way of finding information out from people is through friendly banter – l don’t know any way else of doing that?”
So in the process of just being me , l make someone smile and make their day who makes me smile and adds happiness to my day and l find out stuff and everyone is happy for it. It’s not like l am coercing anyone for data intelligence.
Suze tells me in a friendly manner that not everyone is like that and many would class it as flirtatious behaviour from me. Now admittedly l get a little confused with this terminology – because for me real flirtatious behaviour is very different ….
I mean if we look at what they define as flirting to start with …
Flirting is to behave as though sexually attracted to someone, but playfully rather than with serious intentions, also known as coquetry which is quite lovely all by itself as a word too isn’t it?
Anyway …….. to the questions at hand …
How gritty or pretty is your flirty [technique]?
How well or badly do you respond to flirtatious behaviour?
How flirty are you?
Let Me Know Below – Cheers Rory