How Often Are You On The Menu??
When was the last time you were either on your own menu or should you wish in so far as interpretation – you were on some one else’s menu?
Now what do l mean by this? Well a few weeks ago a dear friend of mine expressed her frustration at always being in demand for other’s own expectations of her time. Now whilst she didn’t go into further details per se … it did indeed make me wonder further.
People are so often so selfishly greedy of taking advantage of others in so many ways and thus doing increasing their demands and expectations of another’s time, good will, freedom and generosity and that by doing so they actually sap a person’s enthusiasm and spirits. The person who is being drained by others can stop to feel good about themselves and therefore they take themselves off the life menu.
If l was to use my current situation as an example – Suze wants her independence from our relationship she doesn’t wish to feel pulled on by another and wants more freedom – now at her own concession and admission – l have never pulled on Suze’s time or her goodwill and have always given – but her family and friends drain her out completely!
In truth however – my Suze is of the Carer Behavioural Type – many people are and if you want to see them – look out for the empaths – they are of the Carer Behavioural Type l talk of. Most empaths are usually also in this type of work … not all, but many. Sadly many empaths have their energies drained by those who unknowingly and unwittingly most times but not always enjoy nothing more than draining empaths.
An alternative term for empaths is highly sensitive people.
Ironically – in many ways it was Suze’s friends and family that finished us as a couple as well as Suze’s reluctance to say NO to people’s demands of her time and generous nature – ring any bells with anyone – maybe you? Maybe you give too much of yourself away to others??
But you don’t have to be an empath to look after yourself, to take control of your own wellbeing, mindfulness, health, mental health – it should be on everyone’s ‘crib sheet’ to look after themselves – and yet! Many people forget to do so ….
When was the last time you put yourself onto a menu of wellbeing or alternatively and open to very broad interpretation when was the last time that someone special in your life put you on their menu and wanted to take all of you and your mental and physical state into consideration [want to pamper you – however that needs be].
Let me know your answers below or create a postal response of your own, your choice.