I Am Ok …. Thanks for asking!
#1 – 01/04/2020
Welcome to ‘I Am Ok … Thanks for asking!
We are living in strange times, don’t you think?
I mean, NONE l should imagine saw this Coronavirus on the horizon … l certainly didn’t. But it is here, and whether we like it or not, will probably be here for some time to come and it will over time, become part our new ‘ordinary’ …
During these past few weeks, something l have noticed is how worried many people are about it – don’t get me wrong, l too am very concerned, l think it is healthy to be aware of the issues this causes not just humanity – but closer to home – communities. Closer to that still – our community here in WordPress. I have found myself dropping both emails and comments to friends and readers alike to make sure they are okay because of their quiet.
I notice people’s absences pretty quickly here, they stop commenting, they stop visiting and sure it might just be one of those ‘blogging’ things – but say if it’s NOT? I tend to at that point start a small proceedure to try and figure out if they are ok … most of the time, they are.
This last week to ten days, l have noticed a drop in writers blogging, l have noticed the creep up in anxiety with some writers. I have noticed through emailing my friends that many are very worried.
Again, very understandable – l learned today that the UK might experience blackouts and power outages because of Covid 19 and that if this starts to happen we should expect it as the norm?
I have seen and read comments on my own blog as well as comments on other blogs and so l figured that this small weekly ‘series’ might just make it easier on others to know that as a community we do care about each other and that sometimes it’s the smallest and simplest things that can ‘make someone’s day waaaay better!’ I make a note to email my friends and ask how they are doing .. most of the time people come back with the comment or email which basically says “I am ok, thanks for asking!”
It’s not just here online either, it’s something l ask the few people l see occasionally, the postal service, the delivery drivers, the neighbours … did you know that many a time, when l ask the postal workers and the delivery drivers how they are – they look shocked? One of the chaps the other day said ‘“I am ok, thanks for asking. You are the only one today who has and l genuinely appreciate it!”
We all appreciate being asked how we are occasionally – you know? Because sometimes no one else does ask and that is what this small series is about – it’s me just asking how are you – are you ok? Is there anything l can do to brighten your day? I can’t do much – maybe it’s enough just asking how you are.
Years ago, when l was sadly going through a very serious breakdown l was assigned ‘Link Buddies’ – they were supposed to be there for me to see how l was doing, ask how l was doing … most of them were pointless – l had six l think before the seventh – the latter being Tom. Tom was different to the others he wasn’t in my face – he would just ring once a week and say “Hey Rory, how are you doing, is there anything l can do to make your day brighter?’
Such a small question and yet – it made the biggest difference to my day knowing that someone cared enough to ask me how l was doing? It helped enormously with my wellbeing and mindfulness.
So, how are you all?
Let me know below or if you wish, please feel free to drop me an email here firstname.lastname@example.org if you just want to chat, vent or moan and need a listening ear. It’s perfectly fine.
However, it’s easy to broadly ask the audience how they are doing, but more personal when you ask individuals – so each week, l am going to ask three people how they are doing and what would be nice is if they too asked three people and so on – if we are having to live by social distancing – then let’s make the social network we have work for us just as efficiently. There is no pressure to respond, or even ask anyone else…it’s your choice.
This week, l am asking the following:
How are you doing?