Just as no one can be forced into belief, so no one can be forced into unbelief.
How Do You Define Your Beliefs?
There are many beliefs held by people these days and some are very strange indeed … they can range from ‘lightning never striking the same place twice’, to the 2 second rule to food dropping on the floor, to the 10% use of our brains only, eggs are bad for your sex life, the cold weather is solely responsible for awarding you coughs and colds, sitting on stone walls will give you piles, we only have five senses … these are common beliefs. But there are other beliefs that people hold like faith and religion, spirituality, soul essence, soul mates, beliefs regarding mental health illnesses and disorders to sexuality and in truth the list is practically endless.
When l was about five perhaps six, if it was raining my mother would inform me that it ‘was God’ going to the toilet! When there was a thunderstorm, she would tell me that God was moving furniture around in heaven and that it was not ‘thunder’ but furniture being scraped along the floors?
I will be honest to the reader here and now, even at that age, l did question her belief on whether she truly thought that was true? I mean it was just wrong to think that God was peeing over the world! With regards to my questioning on lightning …yep! God was turning the lights on and off! She maintained this set of beliefs to me till l was around 9 when l decided that l could no longer cope with such an explanation. Of course l was right to do so, because l learned the truth in school …yet when l explained this to her after the relevent lessons, she just smiled those smiles of hers and said , “It is your right to believe or not believe in what you choose to or not to!”
My mother was always cryptic like that and at times it was quite honestly one of the most frustrating things on the planet to try and have a conversation with her with anything remotely topical. Today in some respects is still no different … my mother has a very determined set of established beliefs in place with regards religion, sexuality, politics, industry, mental health and the list goes on …. it is also her perrogative to believe in what she chooses to believe in.
From the age of twelve l was awarded the title of mischevious and naughty at school because l challenged everything that l was expected to learn and be taught, not in an aggressively defiant manner as the teachers believed, but more of a quizzical fashion.
Why should l believe in that?
Was a question l was constantly asking my religious teacher with regards the teachings of his chosen God to his pupils.In his eyes he had a story of events and it was his almost divine right to enforce those beliefs onto others and good grief if you didn’t agree …..!!
In fact l was told to report to the headmaster for my so called assumed belligerence with regards ‘religious instruction’ [RI] on several occasions. My RI teacher informed my parents one parents evening when l was 15 that their son was an uneducated heathen who needed to be whipped because of his absurd notions with regards Jesus and God and didn’t know the difference between either or and likened Jesus to Tarzan and God to Spiderman, and had wanted me expelled!
He was sorely disappointed by my father who told him that religion wasn’t a big thing in our family. My mother at that time chose to remain silent. My father didn’t believe in God, but my mother did.
At that time in my life l was questioning everything regarding religion and could not hands upon heart state one way or another whether l believed or did not believe …. BUT, there was a stronger chance that as far as religion and l went .. l simply could not see how logically God could exist in any kind of form, but why did we have to believe in the way of the so called religious studies in school?
Although I had been raised as Roman Catholic, my father’s own belief system for that religion started to wane by his late twenties and early thirties and so Sunday school was lopped on the head [thankfully] by the time l was around 11. I was already being considered some kind of demon at that time due to my so called strange beliefs on not just religion, but on many subjects to do with the world.
My core belief is that if you’re complaining about something for more than three minutes, two minutes ago you should have done something about it.
Throughout all of my teenager years l challenged everything set in stone and questioned everything else, not just religion, but everything that lay in my path. I was considered the bane of existence by my mother’s priest who when l turned 17 was summoned to the house to tackle demonic possession!! This caused an absolute furore between my parents and when the priest arrived he was convinced that not only was l possessed by something or the other nasty, that the house was haunted and to boot we were experiencing poltergeist activity!
At that time l was very interested in reading horror stories, was writing horror stories and was involved as far as my mother was concerned, heavily in drugs, strange sexuality practices and was quite possibly an active black magic occultist!
The priest agreed with her and was gearing up to have authorised an exorcism on me!
This is a story l do have in the pipelines to write, but it was in the end a huge misunderstanding and even bigger misinterpretation of communication between my beliefs and my mothers beliefs. My personal belief system is that l will explore everything with an open mind up until such a time that my mind can no longer accept the possibility of another person’s belief system, but l will NOT under any circumstance judge that person for their belief … because as my mother said [although it was to be hypocritical of her] “It is your right to believe or not believe in what you choose to or not to!”
It’s not my position to criticise another’s belief system, as it is their absolute right to believe in what they wish to, equally as much as it is my right to believe in what l choose to believe in.
Significant events in 1987 changed my life forever and if l had even remotely held onto the slimmest of beliefs to God and the existence of, they were dashed hundred fold over a rock and forgotten forever. It was and is safe to say that day changed my life and it opened up my eyes to all sorts of adventures in this world of ours – that day in November made me realise that all beliefs needed to be thoroughly challenged and put to the test properly and that my task was to taste everything the world had to offer and only once experienced and sampled could l honestly say whether a belief was right or wrong.
Over the years since then, l have come to explore, discover and experience many strange things in this world, many a time that l cannot always logically explain and say whether it was there or it wasn’t there, it is true or it is not true. I try to whenever possible exercise my brain’s plasticity or neuroplasticity for those who prefer that term, as l believe that we all have to continually change direction with regards our belief system at times to accomodate new input.
These days, l enjoy making myself feel awkward and uncomfortable with regards beliefs and furthermore am of the impression that we should ask ourselves questions that challenge our own beliefs. I think we all need to be forever curious and possess the ability to adopt and adapt new thinkings that may go against the grain of what we think and believe is true or not. In the last forty five years cognitively speaking, l have held differing views on spirituality, religion, agnosticism, atheism or humanism equally as much as my quirky beliefs in cryptozoology much defied by many to my very open beliefs on sexuality, taboo or stigma topics.
Our beliefs in many ways define who we are, they can work for us as well as against us, they can move us forwards or hold us back. Our beliefs can move mountains especially if enough believe in the same thing but also our fixed beliefs can make us stagnate in so far as holding onto some beliefs may create too much negative enegy which doesn’t do us any good what so ever, and in so doing they can damage us.
Be the change you wish to see in the world.
I try to live and lead my life with my core beliefs, but l am always open to change, because life changes, it moves on, our yesterdays can change so dramatically that it recreates itself into a new future.
Our beliefs do define us, but they mustn’t hinder us and we should always be open to change and new ways and discoveries. Just because we hold a belief of this and that, doesn’t mean we always have to believe in that and we should be able to exercise our minds in such a way to allow for the opportunity of new discovery, research and findings that may alter our perception of a belief we have held for years.
More and more aged personal beliefs for people are being torn open and disproved and doubted all the time. The more we move forwards as a society of people into the future, more and more of these belief systems are simply proving antiquated, and so we have to adapt and adopt change otherwise we stagnate.
How often do you challenge your personal beliefs?
Have you ever changed any of your fixed personal beliefs and if so, what were they and why did you change?
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