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The Daily Four

Season 1 – Game 2

Question Fun Directory

Welcome to The Daily Four!

Today’s Questions to the Readers are….

How important is your birth family to you?

What gets too much attention in the news?

If you could change 3 things about your country, what would you change?

What fact amazes you every time you think of it?

………… first my own answers.


How important is your birth family to you?

I have been thinking about my birth family a lot this week – with my father passing last October, l made mention to Ursula of An Upturned Soul recently that, l haven’t grieved for my father for the whole of the time period since his death apart from an initial tear on the day of his death and that wasn’t for him dying but purely for the fact that he was never a true father to me. He favoured my sister more from day one and we were never really close as father and son.

My sister and l are not close and all she was hyperfocused on during his dying days was seeing how much l knew about the volume of money she’d had from him over the years. She pretended to be interested in her brother, but she wasn’t and she never will be. I have not heard from her properly now for a few months and that was only concerning the last of the monies from the estate.

My mother and l used to be very close but for the last few years, she too has drifted off and although l try to speak to her once every few weeks – there doesn’t seem to be any urgency from her to talk. From the time of dad’s death l saw a different side to my mother that she had tried to hide , pretend it wasn’t there , but that side to her has always been there – she just hid it, and when he was dying and eventually passed away she displayed her true colours.

My family was dysfunctional when we were all living at home as a 2.2 unit and it stayed and remained that way for the last forty plus years.

What l have truly noticed is that since my father’s death l have finally felt that burden of responsibility of sorts lifting from my shoulders, it’s hard to explain and l will in a post soon enough – but it’s time to get on with my life properly for me. Recently Ursula wrote in a response that l was ‘trying to please too many people’, at that point she was referring to this blog. But l have been giving that term, people pleasing a lot of thought this last week and when l answered Ursula that it was something l was working on, that was true.

Am l a people pleaser? Are people pleasers really that bad? Are they truly worthy of all the bad shit that psychology dishes at times – l don’t think so, l am going to discuss this subject further also, probably in the new series ‘Magazine on a Bench’

I am not a people pleaser in one sense, but this week alone with that thought buzzing around my head, and the creation of this question and my opinions on my birth family – l was a people pleaser of sorts, but of the small fraction of me that was – it’s no longer there, it died when my father passed away.

How important is your birth family to you?

They’re not.

What gets too much attention in the news?

In the UK for me, there are things that just irk me, probably not others but they do me – l am tiring of seeing news about the Royal Family – l don’t wish them ill, but l don’t care about the Royal Family – they seemingly are becoming way too commercial – maybe that’s a sign of the times. I don’t care for celebrity news either, celebrities are just constantly in our faces and l just switch off. The final aspect of the news is the news itself – there’s just so much negativity and too much political sway from supposedly neutral sources. So news in general.

If you could change 3 things about your country, what would you change?

Well the entire governmental system for starters – l have no faith whatsoever left in anything political or governmental in the current structure. I have no belief [and l am not alone in this thought] of either or any hard core political party and recently said l voted Green as the neutral.

The health care system in the UK needs a complete overhaul and needs to be managed correctly and work for the people who pay into it.

Equality amongst wages. The cost of living continually increases, but the wages in this country always standstill. There are more fat cats out there getting richer off everyday folks who are seriously struggling to make ends meet.

What fact amazes you every time you think of it?

That David Cameron thought the country would vote his way with regards Brexit and that he never made any arrangements for an alternative response, and that NO ONE was at all prepared for that alternative response, and then like a child not out of nappies he threw his toys out of the pram and quit – never ceases to amaze me!

So there we go, my four answers out of the way, now your turn … let me know your answers below or should you wish to, by all means create a post – your choice. Should you choose to do so, please do include a ping back to this link …. Question Fun Directory

Thanks for reading, Rory

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13 thoughts on “The Daily Four

  1. If pleasing people gives you joy then do it.
    When pleasing people is the only way you feel good about yourself, or it is done at the expense of your needs/wants, then it’s time to stop.

    Typically INFP answer right?! Also, typical to me, it wasn’t one of the questions, but a tangent😂


    1. It’s not so much that, l think there are more factors to the ‘pleasing aspect’ with regards people.

      I agree though when it starts to become detrimental that it’s time to stop. But l am not actually a people pleaser – l am an affable kind of guy and l will help where l xan, but l think sometimes PP gets a bad rap.

      As said l will discuss this as a subject matter in more detail soon enough, l have to try and get myself back on schedule, but with everything going on of late, it’s proving difficult 🙂

  2. Before I post my response, just to say I know what you mean about families and their being dysfunctional. Mine certainly is, and finally I have drawn the line, though Hubby severed contact with his years ago.
    People pleasing was one of the reasons we moved away in 2007, tired of being at everyone’s beck and call, living our lives for other people, and being the scapegoats when things went belly up.
    Certain members of my family never got over it, turning nasty and spiteful as they tried to riddle me with guilt.
    Glad I get to choose my friends.

    Wholeheartedly agree with you about Cameron.

    Be back later with my post

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