Philosophy of the Love Crafting


Philosophy of the Love Crafting

Over the years l have changed, as have you,
Looking for the right lover true,
From when l first started my journey,
A few relationships and a trip to the clergy,
But not to be l guess,
For all ended in one huge mess,
Obviously not meant to be,
Apparent by the presence of tragedy,

Each failed episode in love just leaves me,
A little more weakened and weary,
Tired and sore and terribly cynical,
Looking at other lovers with critical,
Eyes, searching their happiness,
How they make it work? Each caress,
They share will it be their last?
Or is it just me that is miscast?

Where do l go so wrong? Or do l?
Questioning ourselves we must try,
To understand where it is that we slip up,
In life’s’ loving cup?
Before we again can move on to new pastures,
Searching for a new chapter,
How are we to approach with that freshness?
When we feel so emotionally restless,

We become closed off from society,
And as such weaken our chances of variety,
Start to look to the Internet for the answer,
Dating sites pop up, will they serve as the enhancer?
Lord, the pitfalls of the dating site,
Hours on the profile and still not right,
Endeavouring to sell ones soul for viewing,
By unknowns who are actively pursuing,
The same as you, but like you are cynical,
Wanting it to be right, but believe it to be mythical!
And what does one really write,
Concerning themselves to get others to bite?
To be honest and truthful is received,
Like you are, may not be perceived,
In the same light but scorned upon,
By those whom like you look at love with a frown!

End of the day, l guess and straight in the bag,
All we really want at times is a decent shag,
With no strings nor emotions attached,
To vent our frustrations to someone detached,
But even then, mentally astray with that thought,
That too will simply make us further distraught!
Sadly it all comes down to life’s realities,
That as humans we all suffer from frailties!

© Rory Matier 2013


22 thoughts on “Philosophy of the Love Crafting

  1. I love this!!
    I’ve been (mostly) happily single for going on 7 years. I may decide to venture out again some time in the future. Or I may adopt more dogs and cats and become the “weird animal lady” lol.

    1. 🙂

      I am very lucky to have Suze, although we very nearly parted last year. I can cope being alone, but just because we can cope doesn’t mean we always want it.

      This was originally written in 2011 when l looked at the dating sites, but felt very alienated in there, and vowed to simply not bother.

      If Suze and l were to split now, l wouldn’t look for another, no not being foppish, but merely a case of enough is enough. I would be done with it 🙂

      1. That’s how I feel. I met my ex-fiance’ on a dating site. He nearly destroyed me. Since then, I haven’t looked, nor do I care to look. If it’s meant to be, so be it.
        You are so fortunate to have Suze. Then again, she is very fortunate as well. Again, the piece you wrote back in 2011 really hit home. Great writing!

  2. Nice poem Rory, I tryed the dating sites for a while then gave it up it wasn’t worth the time and hassle, I go by this days ” if it happens great if not all well “. ❤️✌️


  3. what a realistic synopsis for life and love and our struggle! “we all suffer from frailties” that’s for sure and we need someone to share these frailties with us I guess but the paradox as I see it, we don’t care about the ones who admire us and we chase the ones who will never do! And it’s not something we can control but this is the main issue…because every person has many admirers and at least someone that sees them so perfect and so great along with their flows, but we are unable to see them the same

    1. Hey Huguette, many thanks for stopping by.

      Oh the admirers, many a time the people we simply don’t know they exist the way they do know we do. I have had a couple like that over the years, one was a close friend and we were just better off as friends, but she didn’t believe that, we tried it and then now we are no longer friends. The form of unrequited love, also can be seen as dangerous stalker problems also.

      i am much luckier these days and for the last six and half years, a good solid relationship with one of first and foremost greatest human friendships l can have. We have been through hell and high waters, darkened tunnels and rocky mountains and still come up tops – it’s all good. but if that was to fail, l would become and officla hermit, because the love crafting is way, way too complex these days 🙂

      1. First I really hope it ill work and you will not become a hermit 😊 if you went through all this, it will probably work
        unrequited love is unfortunately destructive and can ruin also a good friendship, happens the entire time…
        My words were more like a wish actually because the reality is different and these days? It’s a bit more than a complex 🙂
        Best of luck and thank you for you reply

        1. Yes, these days, Huguette it is way more than complex alone for so many people – my father carried an unrequited love for 20 years on a woman he used to be involved with, it single handedly destroyed him, or rather he allowed it to consume and destroy him sadly.

          – have yourself a fantastic day 🙂

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