Post Revisited, Reedited, Reworded, Reblogged From April 17th 2018
No Mate of Mine!
I personally don’t regard my Aspergers as a disability although l know quite a few autists who do regard autism as such. To me it’s a disorder, a different way of thinking, but irrelevant to what l personally opinionise it as – l have sadly fallen victim quite a few times to both bullies and manipulators.
My first experience of ‘disability hate crime’ was at home whilst growing up, and it was at the hands of my Father who believed his Son to be backward due to the unseen ‘autism’. My own Father whom l strongly believed when he was alive to be on the spectrum himself, saw any disability or disorder as a flaw, an imperfection and they were not permitted,not under his roof! Equally, the likes of homosexuality or bisexuality or any sexuality above what he defined as the normal sexuality! I remember asking once when l was about 15, what on earth was a so called normal sexuality?? How did he define normality with regards sexuality? His answer was blunt, “Normal sexuality is the normal one, stop asking bloody stupid questions!”
He failed to see that certain traits and behaviours that he himself had which were not pleasant, as flaws or faults … so therefore in his so called easily defined normal world, the likes of sexism, racism, narcissism and chauvinism were all perfectly acceptable! He insisted as he got older, that he didn’t think like that anymore, but he did, it was always present in everything he did, and was present in a lot of his writing.
Growing up in my house when younger was hard work, not an easy chore at all, and whilst my Father said he has changed his ways from back then, l am of the opinion that a leopard never truly changes its spots and a homophobe is still a homophobe no matter how much you disguise it and whilst he was not some kind of active disability terrorist,his views were extremely antiquated and very non pc! The time for the Alf Garnets’ of this world had long passed.
My life was filled with bullying and manipulation from the time l left home to around 8 years ago, when l was subjected to the most appallingly lurid form of slavery and mate crime to a pair of private landlords where l used to rent. Fact is, no one can tell me that disability hate crime is NOT a rife problem in the UK today because first hand l know it is!
But when l was growing up, it wasn’t known as that specifically – it was aggressive bullying, taunting, jaunting, jibing and generally poking fun at someone disabled or not like the others. In the 70’s there was a host of disabled jokes doing the rounds at school, and whilst not as ‘popular’ as they once were for want of a way of describing societies fixation on them, occasionally you hear of a poor quality one liner from someone, trying to raise an inappropriate funny.
According to the surveys from 2018 – hate crimes across the board and by this l include disability, religious, racial and transgender hate crimes are on the increase by a good 40% from the previous year, which had itself increased from the previous year by 41% – so a drop, although not significant.
These crimes performed both on and off line is part of an ever growing concern by the regulative policing authorities of the United Kingdom. Homophobic, transphobic, racial and religious hate crime are all on the up – hate crime is almost like a new fashion trend, but it is still a crime and not to be ignored or brushed up under the carpet, and treated like a taboo.
People are cruel, it is that simple and furthermore, people have been cruel to one another since the very dawn of time – mankind, is cruel. Society is cruel to society, if something stands out as being different or unusual, or doesn’t conform to supposed ‘normal defines’ then it has to be treated as alien, and no aliens apparently come in peace, so they must be attacked first, and maybe asked questions later – maybe.
And what’s different, what causes someone to suddenly look upon you as a threat to normal defines?
Well that can be anything, from the simple feature of your preferred sexuality to your visual sexuality, or your religion, your skin colour, your political belief, your football team, the colours green, red and pink striped, the way you wear your clothing, your hair, your makeup – anything can lead to a sudden surge of attack or hostility of physical, verbal or mental abuse!
Hate crime, is a criminal offence – it’s that simple – and it is acted out because of the belief or perceived belief of someone’s disability – in the eyes of another.
I was subjected to three years of serious disability hate crime from 2009 – 2012 and it was one of the most distressing times in my entire life and will remain with me as a memory probably till the day l die. Whilst l have moved on from that ‘episode’ of my life, it is because of that that l am an advocate against hate crime.
Hate Crime can take the form of many guises:
Threat of attack through intimidation
Verbal abuse, harassment, insults, gestures, printed literature, bullying
Equally as insidious is mate hate, or mate crime – carried out by those deliberately befriending those with disabilities with the sole intention of taking advantage of them, stealing from them, subjecting them to bullying and physical and mental violence.
We each have a duty to each other, to ourselves and to those who are seen and are considered vulnerable. That should we witness crimes and or incidents then we should report them, but not get into such a position that the tables are turned on yourself.
Disability Hate Crime, No Mate of Mine!
These posts are my views on my autism/Asperger’s, they may not be everyone else’s who is on the spectrum.