Do you remember my post of Here’s a Thing? Last week? If not l have provided the link should you wish to refresh and if not no problem, l will just continue.
One of the things l was concerned with was how l wanted to manage my favourite followers into some kind of lounge setting so l could see all their posts in one area and that would act as my prompt to remember to visit them – there l have said it – ‘to remember to visit them.” Because l do forget.
I mean as writers, bloggers, poets, creators and whatever term you wish to use, the one thing we all enjoy is the obvious thing, we like producing content for our audience. I am no fool, l spent years in marketing and promotion and creating content for audiences, and whilst principally l do uttermostly write for myself, l am also aware that my blog isn’t switched to private viewing, it is open to public viewing, and as such l have a following which is an audience. I mean if l wanted to write purely for myself, then l would keep a journal and not a public blog. So, l acknowledge openly that l write for me and my readership.
I mean, find me an author that has written a book that has been published and placed into the market demography and then doesn’t want anyone reading it? Doesn’t make sense does it? Because authors and publishers want to make sales on their content, otherwise why do it? In essence we are also authors and publishers be it our own content to our blogs. If no one reads it, then we must make amends to ensure that we get something read, or we give up.
Now l appreciate there are those who only want small audiences, but whatever the size you want, you still want readers viewing your content, because as said you could keep a journal on your PC out of everyone’s eyes.
I get a lot of email, too much at times, and that is not a derrogative stab at anyone, it is just one of those things, however there is no way on the planet that l can read everything that lands in my box, and still have time to write.
I am a prolific and frenetic writer, some might say l am addicted to writing, or obsessed and they would be right to say it as l am. Writing has been with me since l learned how to perform it. I love words, l like learning new words, l like reading new words, l like using new words and putting words together. I like writing stories and penning the odd poem. I have a story to tell like all of us, but l love to write.
You probably know l am on the spectrum of autism with my Asperger’s and whilst this is not using this card as some kind of excuse, because of that l have certain traits and behaviours which many autistic people actually have, which l shall cover in a moment.
Over the years, l have been called things like ‘egotistical, self-centred and selfish’, and at my own concession, these names upset me, because l am none of those things, but to the unknowing of autism and Asperger’s, those trait are all too familiar to those of us on the spectrum, as in we hear them a lot. But to the knowing of behaviours of the spectrum, they don’t use them. They say things like “It’s a Special Interest”. I have had over the years a lot of ‘special interests’, you might think of them as just hobbies, but with autism, it’s NOT just a hobby, it’s a full time career.
You see, when l am passionate about something and in this case we shall keep on the writing path, l become seriously hyper-focused or super fixated’, so much so that l am oblivious to other things and at times other people – so you can see quite clearly l should imagine why those names are thrown.
Now why on earth am l writing about this? Well, it’s because l feel guilty a lot of the time these days and l am making steps to change that guilt and l am seeking balance, an equilibrium, and it’s hard.
Someone emailed me the other day and they asked why l did the night time call out for other bloggers? Fine, that’s a good question, and the answer is this… because l want to and because l can and more importantly why shouldn’t l? To me calling out or tagging another blogger is no different to sharing their work on my blog. But also, it is a way of saying both Hi to that blogger as well as drawing people to that blogger’s blog.
The thing is l like to share other writer’s work, and l get a kick of gratification knowing that maybe that other blogger might appreciate the call out, because sometimes l am SO hyperfocused that l can’t get to another blogger’s blog every day, and l want these writers to know that l am still thinking of them.
But as said l am struggling with this guilt complex of mine … l love receiving comments from people and it’s nice to get likes and follows, although l feel very uncomfortable receiving compliments from other people, and that is NOT just an autistic thing, but l don’t want to come across as selfish and uncaring to another writer’s work because of my addiction to writing and they might think l don’t reciprocate.
This is NOT a fishing trip for compliments either, what it is however is this ..
A lot of bloggers l think are like me, they don’t have the time to read every single blog out there, but they might perform what l class as clickermania. They log in, and click away at several posts at once without reading them. That is fine, l could do that, but l can’t because l would feel even guiltier than l currently feel. I write and produce content for nearly 10 hours a day which is a lot, and in the other hours l am living life but at the same time thinking of writing and what l am going to be writing next, which l am never short of ideas for – hell my brain is constantly whirring, to the point that it feels like at times that my head might explode! I can’t empty everything quick enough, it’s like l have verbal mental verse diarrhoea!!
You see, if l click something it’s because l like it, or l have read it, or both. I don’t often comment because sometimes l have nothing to say to the content, but l comment where l can – but l don’t just click for the sake of it, as that seems unfair and not right. So l have devised in the last week a new worksheet to my Excel Writing Schedule, which trust me when l say is getting fairly hectic by itself! It’s manual, because in Manual I Trust and l have made a vow to visit 5 blogs per day and view five posts from each blog. I had to write it down in a sheet so as to not forget it., because my Excel Scheduler is always open. So if, you see from this point on, five likes, comments or whatever from me in succession, it means l have visited your blog.
I like giving credit where credit is due and l like complimenting other blogger’s and l like making them smile. I share your work because l like it, l like your post because l like it, l comment because l have something to say and l tag those in the evening to say “Hey, Howdy and Hi l like what you do and want other’s to see it too!”
Thanks for reading.
Rory & Doodlepip
Ps: If l have come across as selfish, l am genuinely sorry – seriously – NO one has called me that …yet. But l don’t want them to either.