Reflectively – To Be


“The little things? The little moments? They aren’t little.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn


Reflectively – To Be …

Many talk about it, but what actually is it? Is it a hyper focus on a person’s religion or … what?

Mindfulness as a topic has been gaining an enormous following and gaining more and more popularity in the last five years or so despite being around for almost ever. Many insist it is purely some kind of meditation, and whilst l cannot deny that meditation has its place, it is not specifically the ‘oms’ that is chased by those following.

Mindfulness is a practice that did originate from Buddhism, but as said you do not need to be a religious icon to follow the path. Mindfulness when practiced with regularity can help you stabilise your life, and in truth more people should perhaps look into its benefits, as it could help them lead a more desirable lifestyle.

I am still new to it, although l was always mindful, but this is not the same. I walk hand in hand with stress daily, whether l am stressed or not – l still have it, l suffer with anxiety and l am constantly battling off melancholy and depression, which can be true deviants to the mind. My mind can play nasty tricks on me many a time, and l am always having to be on guard, so it was suggested to me to perhaps look into this ‘mindfulness’ thing.

Whilst being mindful is NOT specifically it, it is not that far off, many describe mindfulness as being more aware of your surroundings, being at one with both the environment and yourself and if anything paying a very deliberate attention to life on purpose without judgement – quite a handle to take on board.



“Many people are alive but don’t touch the miracle of being alive.”

– Thích Nhất Hạnh


I had visions of down faced dog as in yoga, and sitting squat and cross legged on an oversized cushion chanting and ringing a little bell and l can assure you now – that simply didn’t appeal!

In more realistic terminology for my logical brain was this … mindfulness is about understanding where you are in your life and allowing the sensations of your mind, body and soul to unite through observations and understanding.

Still none the wiser?

For me personally my mindfulness is comprised of positivity, motivation, wellbeing and ensuring l keep myself on a stable line of thought as best as l can and more importantly as often as l can. The therapy or therapeutic angle is principally to be aware of my limits and boundaries and try to understand them as deeply as l can. In other words – find your motivation for mindfulness where it best suits you – for me it is in writing, photography, walking and allowing myself mindful ‘me’ time.



“Much of spiritual life is self-acceptance, maybe all of it.” – Jack Kornfield


For years l carried various guilt’s for whatever reason, and last October l decided to stop doing that – why was l hanging on to things that l didn’t need to feel guilty about? So l adopted the approach of forgiving myself and to stop being so hard on myself when things didn’t quite pan out the way l had intended them to. So in essence a form of ‘self-compassion’.

But also to learn to be grateful for the things l do have in life and stop wallowing in despair and self-pity, because we can all do that at one point or another.

But this is just me, what works for you?


“Rejoicing in ordinary things is not sentimental or trite. It actually takes guts.”

– Pema Chödrön


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14 thoughts on “Reflectively – To Be

  1. “In more realistic terminology for my logical brain was this … mindfulness is about understanding where you are in your life and allowing the sensations of your mind, body and soul to unite through observations and understanding.”

    You hit the nail on the head. Mindfulness is not about a bunch of poses, and it certainly isn’t about the over-sexualized and commercialized phenomenon that we in the West call ‘yoga.’ Mindfulness is about being minutely aware of one’s current sensations, and accepting them without judgement. This can take different forms for different people. I was most mindful, most alive, when I practiced kung fu.

    Wait, scratch that. I’ve always felt most alive and present when hiking on mountains: kung fu is a close second.

  2. Oh I really enjoyed this post… it took a life-changing burnout (adrenal exhaustion, actually) for me to finally receive the gift of mindfulness. Sitting in the same chair, looking out the same window for an entire year, unable to do anything but the simplest of tasks has a way of slowing your mind down. Now, three years later, I have accepted that I will never be able to ‘go’ like I used to. Thank God…

    1. Hey Patti – hope you are keeping well … it’s always an incident in our lives, and sometimes the smallest event that makes us start to see thing differently 🙂

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